This post is about Security –the emotional kind, not systems and such. It’s about feeling secure, about comfort, peace, and assurance that may come from ‘things’ as well as words. I hope my story helps you in your grief journey.
Her mom’s mug is special, about half the size of a normal coffee cup. More like you’d get at an old diner. It was her mom’s coffee cup, and the connection Linda has with that cup tethers her to her mom when she is feeling a bit insecure or maybe just sad. It brings her comfort and peace, fueled by the beautiful memories of she and her mom throughout her life. It makes her feel secure.
The night before Linda was to return home from the hospital I, too, found myself anxious and restless. I couldn’t sleep. My mind was reeling. You know the feeling. Foggy brain, forgetfulness, confusion…
Not unlike Linda’s mom’s coffee mug with all its history and treasured memories, Adam’s Teddy Bear comforted me in the night as I lay awake, thinking about Linda in the hospital. I felt more secure, more at peace.
I guess my point in this post is to offer the idea that it’s really ok to cling to all those precious, beautiful memories, objects and whatever else that may bring the security, comfort and peace in our grief journey. I’m fast approaching 73 years on this world, and I’m not embarrassed to share with you that I sleep with my son’s Teddy Bear on occasion. (Sometimes I even drink from Linda’s mom’s coffee cup.)